Yes, Rep. Jasmine Crockett is a beautiful black woman--it is OK to notice
There is a difference between a compliment and objectification
I get it.
I have been there.
Some dude comes up, stares at your boobs while he is talking to yah, and you get the idea he is already playing the porno of the two of you in his mind.
Heck, some guys tell you their intentions upfront.
I recall a fellah I’d barely said hello to asking me whycome ladies won’t simply hop into bed with every guy who expresses an interest (not quite worded that way, but the gist.)
Yeah. Smooth.
I held my tongue but wished I had said something along the lines of, “Is my desire to discriminate when it comes to sexual partners getting in the way of you having your way with me? I apologize for my free will.”
In such a case, snark was well warranted.
This scenario is no different than some knock-out gold digger approaching a man with money and stating plainly, “You got money—will you buy me a Ferrari cuz I’m hot?’
No one wants to be approached as if their feelings and thoughts do not matter—no one wants to be used.
Compliment versus Objectification
That said, who doesn’t love a compliment?
Talented funny lady Em Allyn®️™️ check her out; she’s awesome, recently complimented my hair, which gave me happiness warm and fuzzies. Why? Because I try to groom myself in ways I find to be aesthetically pleasing—I have my own swag.
It is nice when people notice; when they do, it can boost your confidence.
As I stated in the above 5 1/2 minute video, someone mentioned they found Texas representative Jasmine Crockett beautiful in a comment section on YouTube. He also noted she was intelligent, fierce, and savvy—said he was glad she was fighting for us; we were lucky to have her.
This—all of this!
He was soon scolded by Rando Dude in the comment section with, “Hey pal, leave her beauty OUT OF IT!”
Rando Dude, making this declaration, claimed the OP was objectifying her. Wait. How was noticing a physical trait, her attractiveness, the same as objectifying her?
When I replied she was indeed beautiful and saying so wasn’t bad, another piped in to say, “Well, I would rather be known for my intelligence than my looks!”
Well la-dee-dah!
Seriously, “Why not both!”
When humans interact, we notice every aspect of another human being, including the physical. There is even an entire science to it. Do we want to live in a world of stiff, formal gatherings filled with people afraid to look one another in the eye in case we notice attractiveness?
That’s silly.
Jasmine Crockett is pretty. There, I said it. Wanna fight?
But, but, but… I don’t see color!
Trying to ignore the beauty elephant in the room is akin to saying, “I am colorblind,” or, “I don’t see color!”
That is some virtue-signalling BS right there. We have eyes. We see color. We see beauty, too. The trick is not to allow it to be the sole attribute we focus on or give the majority of weight to, especially when it is an incidental we have no control over.
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Lookit, yes, dating someone simply because they are attractive is the same as dating someone because they have money. It is wrong-headed in ways too numerous to list here.
Being something of a sapiosexual, I’d even go so far as to say dating someone just because they are intelligent is bad, too. Intelligence is desirable in people we associate with, but I have met very smart individuals who are not the nicest; some use their wit and charm to psychologically harm or ridicule others.
In an effort to ensure a society that values personality over attractiveness ( and we should), I think we are over-correcting and making it appear as if being attractive is somehow wrong—or that a woman cannot be both beautiful and intelligent, or that one aspect is okay to notice and not the other.
Whaddup with that?
When we look at fellow homo sapiens, we need to see the entirety of the person, including—well, everything.
Sure, some of the kind of people who would make you run into a wall because they are so damn hot can be awful—meanspirited, shallow, intellectually incurious. But that isn’t a given; I have also seen the opposite be true. Recall a scene in Waiting to Exhale where one of the main female protagonists, played by Lela Rochon, dated a man who wasn’t attractive, thinking he wouldn’t cheat on her.
Before the movie was even halfway through, that brother proved her wrong.
We can note the outer and still assess the inner, no matter the scenario.
The balancing act
So, what am I saying here?
In a nutshell—objectification bad, well-intentioned compliment—good.
At the end of the day, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is wonderful that we can find all kinds of lovely things in one another, especially when we combine them with the beauty within the soul.
This makes life vibrant, fun, and interesting, adding to the spirit of life and the spice needed to fill it with passion.
This post is beautiful too.
Once every eon Texas delivers an amazing woman into our government. Last eon, it was the venerable Ann Richards. This eon, it's the awe-striking Jasmine Crockett.